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Siemens wrote:No thats okay, however if you know any sci fi fans my age female. PLease get her number as prove :)
Sure - no problem. Will see if they are interested.
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Dont setup a date. That's not how this is going to workout if you want it to.
Tell her to take a flirtatious leaf out of your book and hint that she likes him but she must remain in control.
She must call the shots to make sure he is legit and if he proves himself then it'll work out.

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@JollyJamma - hee hee so I have flirtatious leaves in my book do I ? ;-) How does she stay in control? And how in the world would she know that he is legit? Guys are so hard to read.

@-Prometheus- - so you are saying that he thinks he has found a possible friend and she is reading too much into this? Could be. She has not told me how he talks to other females. She doesn't even know if he is involved with anyone yet.

I think that I am going to tell her to be natural and not push anything. The last thing I want is for my friend to get hurt. She should follow his lead and get to know him better first. If he is interested - I am sure he will make it obvious. And if he does - then she should flirt :lol:
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-Prometheus- wrote:@Syko :violent1:
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Would you care to explain that? What other situation were you referring to?
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me also wanna know....
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@-Prometheus- - from what I gather she doesn't really know him. They are working on a project together but not constantly. So she only sees him now and again. From the way she talks - I would say she doesn't know much about him at all. Just that she thinks he is cute and friendly. She seems to think that he lights up when he sees her. I thought that he might be like this with everyone but she says not. Problem is, now that she has decided that she might like him, she may be reading things into his reactions that aren't there.

And yes - I got what you meant when the blood rushes to his head :twisted:
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True - I will keep you guys informed if there are any other developments.
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-Prometheus- wrote:
SykomantiS wrote:Would you care to explain that? What other situation were you referring to?
Well from your earlier post
I've had this discussion before with certain forumites. So without all the nuclear fallout I'll try repeat it in simple terms. If she likes him she should tell him.
Then again you might not have meant it as such, but it does sound like a generic reply. Sorry if I am misreading it.

@Tribble: I don't think we can say for sure without knowing more. What probably matters most is how she feels about him. So if she wants to pursue it I think she should. I don't think they need to get into how they feel about each other at this point.
Out of curiosity, in your opinion, just exactly how much do the underlined sentences differ?
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No one said anything about being a soppy love-sick puppy :roll:
You can in fact tell someone how you feel without being a soppy love-sick puppy. I guess, as with all things, it's as much about how you say something as it is what you are saying.
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I have know this girl for about 2.5 years, been friends for 1.5 years and been really good friends for about 4-5 months. The first time I met her she seemed nice but pretty full of herself and all of the attention she gets doesn't help. Well just being acquaintances she seemed a bit like a b!tch but not to bad, maybe just arrogant. Since becoming her friend I haven't really noticed her attitude or actions as being b!tchy at all until one of my other mates pointed out what a b.. this girl is. I then started noticing that she is in actual fact a real b... and she thinks she is Gods gift to men. Do you think I am only noticing it because I am looking for it or has she been this way all along I just didn't notice cause we were good friends? If you look for something I guess you always find it ?
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If she's the friend that joined PCF a while ago only to just vanish again I'm sure he's interested. She's not bad looking? :twisted:
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HAHA nope not at all I guess she is relatively attractive but I actually like her best friends
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Tiza wrote:I have know this girl for about 2.5 years, been friends for 1.5 years and been really good friends for about 4-5 months. The first time I met her she seemed nice but pretty full of herself and all of the attention she gets doesn't help. Well just being acquaintances she seemed a bit like a b!tch but not to bad, maybe just arrogant. Since becoming her friend I haven't really noticed her attitude or actions as being b!tchy at all until one of my other mates pointed out what a b.. this girl is. I then started noticing that she is in actual fact a real b... and she thinks she is Gods gift to men. Do you think I am only noticing it because I am looking for it or has she been this way all along I just didn't notice cause we were good friends? If you look for something I guess you always find it ?
Some girls don't appear nasty when you are up close and not the focus of their snide remarks. Perhaps she let you in under her guard and you got to see a side of her that most others don't. And all that is happening now is that you are seeing how everyone else sees her. You have to either chat to her about it or accept that you know a different side of her.
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doo_much wrote:If she's the friend that joined PCF a while ago only to just vanish again I'm sure he's interested. She's not bad looking? :twisted:
Oh and here I thought you were talking about Sonja ;-)
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TRIBBLE!!!!! IT WORKED!!! I TALKED TO HER TODAY............. :D :D :D :D :D :lol:
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More details ??? :)
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We actually had a conversation. She laughed at some my comments. This might be a bit ironic: I have to do an argumentative essay on why teenagers should not be involved in romantic relationships... I just want to be friends with her though - nothing more and I mean it!
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Well done! Now you can talk to her as a friend. Often when we don't know someone, we develop what we think are feelings for them. When we do get to know them we cannot understand how we felt that way. Now you can find someone that you will continue to have feelings for - even when you do know them.

So talk to lots of people - you are young and not in a hurry. Take your time and find someone special.
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Rajiv wrote:I just want to be friends with her though - nothing more and I mean it!
Tell her that before she tells that to you. Because if you change your mind then it will still work. However if she tells you that first then it's going to be very difficult to get out that one once you want more than friendship.
I'm glad for you :)
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