Is her gay friend a threat?

doo_much · Post by **doo_much** » 12 Oct 2009, 18:34

jee wrote:i cannot believe that i'm actually siding with Killerbyte

hit me.

I'd rather not. You're the type that hits back!

Maybe we should have a poll to decide whether KB knows he is gay or not?

SykomantiS · Post by **SykomantiS** » 12 Oct 2009, 18:35

jee,

jee · Post by **jee** » 12 Oct 2009, 18:38

SykomantiS wrote:jee,

Bwhahahahahaha! i'm glad not everyone hits like hamin huns

SykomantiS · Post by **SykomantiS** » 12 Oct 2009, 18:39

Yes, well, you didn't say 'hit that'

Post by **Anakha56** » 12 Oct 2009, 20:18

From my perspective I would have a chat with her and just to see how serious things are between the both of them considering that he said he is interested to go straight. But as for the rest I would not have a problem with.

I have a very close friend of 9 years and whilst we have not slept in the same bed we do at times hold each others hands, lock arms and flirt with each other. My g/f of 6 years 10 months (and who gives a damn about days, hours and minutes) is fine with it because we trust each other. My friend now has a b/f and he knows our relationship and he is fine with us but to be on the safe side I will tone things down a tad until the new guy is more comfortable with my antics. Just to give another view to show it is not just my side, one of my close guy friends keeps on flirting with my g/f and it does not bother me at all.

For me its a trust thing because thats how my side works. I trust my g/f and she trusts me and we both know nothing will happen outside of our relationship.

/awaits for jamin to rip this post up...

Website · Post by **hamin_aus** » 12 Oct 2009, 20:27

Anakha56, I'm gay.

BTW - I'm having a sleep-over at Pam's place Friday night. We are going to have tickle-fights, play dress-up and then she will reveal extremely intimate details of your personal life to me (we call that "girltalk").

You don't mind, right?

Post by **Anakha56** » 12 Oct 2009, 20:30

jamin_za wrote:Anakha56, I'm gay.

BTW - I'm having a sleep-over at Pam's place Friday night. We are going to have tickle-fights, play dress-up and then she will reveal extremely intimate details of your personal life to me (we call that "girltalk").

You don't mind, right?

No problem at all! Will just get a circus midget to wear her clothes and make-up and you are all set for the best night of your life

Synthesis · Post by **Synthesis** » 12 Oct 2009, 20:44

First of all Ark, you're jealous of a gay guy? Are you insecure much

(lol, jk, I had to)

seriously though, no, it's not right. This "dude" shouldn't be having any physical contact with your girlfriend. I see one evening after a nice gay club session they gonna get home pretty drunk and one thing will lead to another, and BOOM, for a few minutes he is straight (excuse the pun). This is pretty inevitable and you'll never know about it.
I'm on the fence about talking to either of them about it though. I don't know how you're going to do it without coming across as being jealous about a gay guy.

I see you're in a dangerous situation so I'm just pointing this out. Unfortunately I have no advice for you on how to get out of it.

Ark · Post by **Ark** » 12 Oct 2009, 22:20

well.. a few hours ago i saw something very disturbing. i honestly don't know how my mentality is going to recover from this.
anyway, its over.

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Synthesis · Post by **Synthesis** » 12 Oct 2009, 22:28

Ark, I suppose this is the part where we use our imagination... Sorry to hear Ark. All the best and hope you recover soon, as I'm sure you will under the circumstances.

I didn't want to say anything earlier 'cos you really got to know the person personally to give sound advice. But by the sounds of things, I wouldn't have carried on the relationship with that girl.

Prime · Post by **Prime** » 12 Oct 2009, 23:09

Ark wrote:well.. a few hours ago i saw something very disturbing. i honestly don't know how my mentality is going to recover from this.
anyway, its over.

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i guess he has gone straight then?

Did you talk to(or scream at) her atleast about whatever it was you saw?

edit: Ouch! Sorry dude.

DAE_JA_VOO · Post by **DAE_JA_VOO** » 13 Oct 2009, 00:12

Stuart wrote:
KillerByte wrote:IF your GF and her guy friend are as close as we are then trying to come between them would be a bad idea. Simple fact is that in our relationships if our partners force us to choose then they come off second best. Our relationship might be strictly platonic but it is also the most important relationship we each have outside of family.
Not trying to be funny, but if you choose a friend over a potential romantic interest, you're not going to get into very many deep relationships.

I absolutely have to agree with that. You're unlikely to find a girl that will be TRULY happy with you, if you have this incredible platonic relationship with another girl. It's just not going to happen IMO.

KillerByte wrote:
Stuart wrote:
KillerByte wrote:IF your GF and her guy friend are as close as we are then trying to come between them would be a bad idea. Simple fact is that in our relationships if our partners force us to choose then they come off second best. Our relationship might be strictly platonic but it is also the most important relationship we each have outside of family.
Not trying to be funny, but if you choose a friend over a potential romantic interest, you're not going to get into very many deep relationships.

Its not that we choose the friendship over romantic interests. The point I am trying to make is that those people who we are romantically involved with must understand that our friendship to us is very important. When romantic relationships fail we have each other to for a shoulder to cry on.

That's great, but you'll soon identify that you will be unable to HAVE a successful romantic relationship because your FRIEND is "getting in the way". No girl will be happy with you being so incredibly close with another girl, ESPECIALLY not if you're married. I know these things from personal experience.

jamin_za wrote:but if I walked in on him and my (hypothetical) girlfriend sleeping together,

I LOL'd

Anakha56 wrote:I have a very close friend of 9 years and whilst we have not slept in the same bed we do at times hold each others hands, lock arms and flirt with each other. My g/f of 6 years 10 months (and who gives a damn about days, hours and minutes) is fine with it because we trust each other.

1) Wow, really? Your girlfriend is totally fine with you holding hands and flirting with another girl?
2) Trust is not the issue here. My girlfriend trusts me 100%, but she would NOT be happy if I was seen holding another girl's hand, even if the other girl was a close close friend of mine.

Ark wrote:well.. a few hours ago i saw something very disturbing. i honestly don't know how my mentality is going to recover from this.
anyway, its over.

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Whoa, what happened dude?

Post by **Anakha56** » 13 Oct 2009, 00:24

DAE_JA_VOO wrote:
Anakha56 wrote:I have a very close friend of 9 years and whilst we have not slept in the same bed we do at times hold each others hands, lock arms and flirt with each other. My g/f of 6 years 10 months (and who gives a damn about days, hours and minutes) is fine with it because we trust each other.
1) Wow, really? Your girlfriend is totally fine with you holding hands and flirting with another girl?
2) Trust is not the issue here. My girlfriend trusts me 100%, but she would NOT be happy if I was seen holding another girl's hand, even if the other girl was a close close friend of mine.

1) Yep, she knows that the flirting is harmless between the both of us and 90% of the time she will join in the other 10% is probably her flirting with my friend. As for the holding of hands for my friend it is a reassurance thing and my g/f understands that. It also helps that the 2 of them have also become very close friends

.

2) Different strokes then

. As I said above maybe if your g/f and friend became close friends things would be different?

Ark, like everyone else, we are now very curious to know what it is you saw? We can kinda guess that it went from sharing the bed for warmth to more.

DAE_JA_VOO · Post by **DAE_JA_VOO** » 13 Oct 2009, 00:55

Anakha56 wrote:1) Yep, she knows that the flirting is harmless between the both of us and 90% of the time she will join in the other 10% is probably her flirting with my friend. As for the holding of hands for my friend it is a reassurance thing and my g/f understands that. It also helps that the 2 of them have also become very close friends .

Hmmmm. I'd be lying if I said I didn't find that fascinating. Well, looks like that works for you

That wouldn't work for me, or my GF

Tribble · Post by **Tribble** » 13 Oct 2009, 05:44

I am sorry to hear about this Ark. Had you been seeing her long?

Post by **Anthro** » 13 Oct 2009, 08:35

<Single ladies>If you liked it you shoulda put a ring on it </single ladies>

Ark · Post by **Ark** » 13 Oct 2009, 08:41

Anakha56 wrote:We can kinda guess that it went from sharing the bed for warmth to more.

something like that

Website · Post by **hamin_aus** » 13 Oct 2009, 09:17

Cuckolded by a gay guy... Jeebus, bru - you just earned yourself a round on me if we ever meet

doo_much · Post by **doo_much** » 13 Oct 2009, 09:44

Faaark!

Sterkte...

Mori · Post by **Mori** » 13 Oct 2009, 10:03

Mori wrote: 2) Kick his a$$,...

May I say this now ?

Sorry to hear Ark.

All the best.

Sojourn · Post by **Sojourn** » 13 Oct 2009, 10:19

She wanted his funk from day one. Do not for one second believe otherwise.
Don't feel cheated, rather feel mislead by a female dog with no regard.
I'll cover the second round after Jamin.

Post by **Stuart** » 13 Oct 2009, 11:11

DAE_JA_VOO wrote:
Anakha56 wrote:1) Yep, she knows that the flirting is harmless between the both of us and 90% of the time she will join in the other 10% is probably her flirting with my friend. As for the holding of hands for my friend it is a reassurance thing and my g/f understands that. It also helps that the 2 of them have also become very close friends .
Hmmmm. I'd be lying if I said I didn't find that fascinating. Well, looks like that works for you That wouldn't work for me, or my GF

I've only met Pam once and then only for a couple of hours, but my initial impression was that there are not many women out there like her. I can see this being true in your relationship, but I don't think that there are many women (or men) out there that would feel the same.

Website · Post by **hamin_aus** » 13 Oct 2009, 11:16

Stuart wrote:I've only met Pam once and then only for a couple of hours, but my initial impression was that there are not many women out there like her.

Yeah, I was infatuated by Pam as well.

But then I like anyone who physically assaults Anakha56 on a daily basis.

And lets not even mention what a thrill I get when rustypups wife beats him up. She's living the dream.

Firestrm_ZA · Post by **Firestrm_ZA** » 13 Oct 2009, 11:20

Sojourn wrote:She wanted his funk from day one. Do not for one second believe otherwise.
Don't feel cheated, rather feel mislead by a female dog with no regard.

Exactly my thoughts. Have strength ARK. and good luck.

americantsm1 · Post by **americantsm1** » 13 Oct 2009, 11:32

@ Ark sorry to hear ... I wish you the best of luck. It sucks when good people get hurt in bad relationships ...

and screw buying you a round lets say I buy you a bottle!

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