Advice needed with break-up

americantsm1 · Post by **americantsm1** » 02 Feb 2009, 21:42

breakups SUCK

especially when you are the one that has to do it and you actually still care about the person and want them to be happy. The thing is though, you owe it to yourself to be happy too, and if this person cares about you too they will want that for you.

If you do not see yourself being happy (or if you are unhappy already) then you owe it to the both of you to end it, swift and honest, it does not have to be hurtful just truthful.

Post by **ryanrich** » 02 Feb 2009, 21:59

Good advice there americantsm1...

americantsm1 · Post by **americantsm1** » 02 Feb 2009, 22:05

ryanrich, thank33 very much RR

but it is also very true: often we get so caught up in what the other person wants or needs ... that you forget about yourself, and often the more time spent in a relationship like that, the more one looses oneself and one's own wants/desires/happiness get lost somehow along the way ...

Post by **ryanrich** » 02 Feb 2009, 22:21

Wow, that's exactly right, and that's the exact type of situation that I've found myself in recently. Caring too much about somebody, that I was willing to sacrifice what I want and believe in to be with them, even though they weren't willing to compromise anything to be with me. It doesn't work like that, and in such a situation it's best to move on...

americantsm1 · Post by **americantsm1** » 02 Feb 2009, 23:17

@ ryanrich, indeed my dear indeed, it is so easy to lose sight of yourself when you love someone

DeathStrike · Post by **DeathStrike** » 03 Feb 2009, 06:40

I'm very sure there is another thread just like this somewhere...

I'm sort of in same position right now. have a girl been with her two and half years. and i feel we got nothing left anymore... she is very clingy also and i have tried to break up with her a few times now. each time she begs me and cries and i give in cos i can't stand her crying. what do i do???

Screeper · Post by **Screeper** » 03 Feb 2009, 07:02

DeathStrike wrote: what do i do???

Read from the beginning of this thread

the advice dispensed is applicable to your situation as well.
Good luck dude

RuadRauFlessa · Post by **RuadRauFlessa** » 03 Feb 2009, 07:59

Screeper wrote:
DeathStrike wrote: what do i do???
Read from the beginning of this thread the advice dispensed is applicable to your situation as well.
Good luck dude

Actually I think it is valid to any breakup situation.

DS - Tell her that she is like #%^#^ on wool.

Post by **KillerByte** » 03 Feb 2009, 08:19

change your facebook relationship status.

Its cold but its to the point.

RuadRauFlessa · Post by **RuadRauFlessa** » 03 Feb 2009, 08:21

KillerByte wrote:change your facebook relationship status.

Its cold but its to the point.

Wahahaha. Be careful of what you say though you do not want to getting sued.

rustypup · Post by **rustypup** » 03 Feb 2009, 08:34

KillerByte wrote:change your facebook relationship status.

much like using sms/mms, it's excessively passive aggressive, childish and cowardly... not to mention disrespectful...

@Ark: learn from the experience... honesty may hurt, but it's going to pay dividends later...

Post by **KillerByte** » 03 Feb 2009, 08:46

rustypup wrote:
KillerByte wrote:change your facebook relationship status.
much like using sms/mms, it's excessively passive aggressive, childish and cowardly... not to mention disrespectful...

@Ark: learn from the experience... honesty may hurt, but it's going to pay dividends later...

I agree with you rusty. there is only one way to do it and that is man up and tell her to her face. Be honest but don't be cruel.

Ark · Post by **Ark** » 03 Feb 2009, 11:13

DeathStrike wrote: each time she begs me and cries and i give in cos i can't stand her crying. what do i do???

That's exactly what I'm fearing

Synthesis · Post by **Synthesis** » 03 Feb 2009, 12:10

Ark wrote:
DeathStrike wrote: each time she begs me and cries and i give in cos i can't stand her crying. what do i do???
That's exactly what I'm fearing

How old exactly are these chicks you want to break up with?

Ark · Post by **Ark** » 03 Feb 2009, 12:13

Synthesis wrote:
Ark wrote:
DeathStrike wrote: each time she begs me and cries and i give in cos i can't stand her crying. what do i do???
That's exactly what I'm fearing
How old exactly are these chicks you want to break up with?

Not quite "these". But anyway, she's 18.

Synthesis · Post by **Synthesis** » 03 Feb 2009, 12:31

lol, I was referring to both your AND Deathstrike's chicks. If it was plural I'm sure you wouldn't have a problem with the caring about breaking up. But then again, it is another way to get HER to break up with you. nuf said.

But anyway, sure, if she is the type to cry just for pity to keep you, then ummmm, yeah, I see why you want to break up.

IcePick88 · Post by **IcePick88** » 03 Feb 2009, 13:27

Like KB said, man up and just tell her. It's not like the world will end. Relationships comes and goes. It's life. If the little 18 year old cannot understand that life is unfair, then so be it. One day she might break up with someone and then she will know what you went through.

I'm so tired of the school kids thinking a break up is the end of the world.

RuadRauFlessa · Post by **RuadRauFlessa** » 03 Feb 2009, 13:47

IcePick88 wrote:Like KB said, man up and just tell her. It's not like the world will end. Relationships comes and goes. It's life. If the little 18 year old cannot understand that life is unfair, then so be it. One day she might break up with someone and then she will know what you went through.

I'm so tired of the school kids thinking a break up is the end of the world.

+1 but it is the end of their world cuz they are the only ones in their world.

Synthesis · Post by **Synthesis** » 03 Feb 2009, 14:21

Some more interesting ways to break up with a girl:

Send her an invitation to your new girlfriend's baby shower
"No, seriously, I thought you were a man the whole time we were dating."
Sell her to pirates
It's not you, but it's not me either.
Wrap up all of her crap from your apartment and give it to her for Christmas.
Introduce her to your new boyfriend
Roses are red, Violets are blue. Trash is dumped and so are you.
Take her on a Hawaiian vacation and only book her ticket one way.
On a "come get checked for syphilis" postcard from the free clinic
during sex
Take her to a club and start introducing her to strangers.
By deflating her
Invite her parents over for dinner and ask them to take her home.
Give her a puppy so she'll finally have somebody who cares.
Give her that Jerry Springer invitation you've been thinking about
Tell her mom to break it to her gently
in a text message
5 o'clock news always works
Bullet engraved with the word LEAVE
Have her twin tell her that you two are dating now.
Invite her to your wedding.
Telling her: "I've always liked your sister better"
when she wants sex say no and masterbate next to her
With a meat cleaver
Bullock style (think of American Dad)
By Sleeping with her twin...brother
getting caught with your pants down in a zoo.
Its not you, its me. Im like attractive women
Quite simple - Kill her
"I just saw the docter, and it turns out i'm actually a girl..."
Through your lawyer
"Your sister brought in more money."
arrive in a white bronco and small leather gloves
On the Jumbotron at the ball game
"you know how when you say I love you and I always say thats nice, well
Have your boyfriend tell her...
Watch only hentai for a month, take notes while smiling at her.
"i brought sara along because we are going out now,..."
She walks in on you making out with her mom
sleeping with thier mother... or father
Your brother was better.
During your wedding ... to another girl
Getting caught in bed...with her brother...and her father.
Hon I just activated a bomb under your chair and I think we need to see others
fed-ex
Have her new boyfriend tell her that their secret is out.
Big sign on the overpass... then she crashes her car
Welcome to dump town - population YOU!!!
With your new girlfriend
pretend you now stutter

Post by **Stuart** » 03 Feb 2009, 14:36

DeathStrike wrote:I'm very sure there is another thread just like this somewhere...

I'm sort of in same position right now. have a girl been with her two and half years. and i feel we got nothing left anymore... she is very clingy also and i have tried to break up with her a few times now. each time she begs me and cries and i give in cos i can't stand her crying. what do i do???

Swap with Ark?

DeathStrike · Post by **DeathStrike** » 03 Feb 2009, 18:25

my gf is 20... 21 end this month.

Synthesis · Post by **Synthesis** » 03 Feb 2009, 18:27

DeathStrike wrote:my gf is 20... 21 end this month.

Wait for her 21st and break up at her party. She'll be drinking and have lots of guys around for a rebound so she shouldn't take it too harshly.

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