Tribble wrote:Sojourn wrote:Eish... you just shot a the great wall of China with a double barrel shotgun hoping to hit gawd knows what target. Care to narrow the scope a wee bit?
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Yikes that's hard. I guess I would have to tell you all the things that I do <that I am questioning> and you tell me if they are ok? Not likely!
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I just need to know from you, what is acceptable.
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Jeesh... I am probably the WORST person on this forum to answer that Q... but here goes.
1. Dont just hear what your kids say, try to listen.
2. Dont make a decition on the spur of the moment with serious issues. Think about things, involve your husband, then decide.
3. You will have to make spur-of-the-moment decitions almost every second day, so try to be fair when you do.
4. Give the kid(s) a chance to do things their way, sit with them and say "OK, this is your chance to do this and that your way... you have ONE chance. I dont agree, but will support you." Then when they bang their head on the rocks of life, be there for them, never say "told-you-so". Then tell em its now time to do it YOUR way. Give them a uge pat on the back when they prove you wrong.
5. Point no4 will not be always possible, so if you have to outright veto an issue, make sure the kid understands WHY its done.
6. Dont ever lie to your kids. Ever. Not even the white ones.
7. Your kids needs to understand that you are the parent, and you need to make sure they understand this without being Mugabe about it.
8. Be consistant with rewards and punishment.
9. Dont eat in front of the TV every night, sit around a table as a family. )Scary how this is regarded as hogwash in most cases).
10. Have fun with your kids. Go on trips, and let them be "in charge".
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