I could really use some advice

[Prime]

Tribble ok, cool.

[jee]

jee, so while the other admins have a banstick, you simply have a broom stick?

yeah, and i know what where to stick that broom, so running for the hills.... is kinda not the right thing to do!

[mina.magpie]

Well on their own each of the 3 is not bad, its when they are combined that it is a problem. I know alot of them, my parents and grand parents are like that. It took them quite a while just to accept my hair(that hangs halfway down my back by now). By telling people like that you are transgendered you could have just as well told them that you are a gay satanist, the reaction would be about the same.

I can just imagine it:

GS: "Mom, Dad. I have something to tell you. You'd better sit down for this."
Mom: "What is it sweetie?"
GS: "I'm a gay satanist."
Dad: "... oh okay then ... As long as you still support the Bulls though."
GS: ...O_o...

I don't have any ideas for you sorry, dealing with parents like that is a big problem. They 'know' that they are right and you can't argue with them. I found that is sometimes easier to live my life without a battle with many people I know than to live the way I want and have an issue with them. Even if it means living a way I don't always want. Changing some of your gender may not be enough, having a full transformation is not possible yet. And even if your body could change fully, you have not grown into it. You will still never be a normal male/female. It will be a lose/lose situation don't care how you look at it. Blerg rambling again.

That would depend alot on the strength of his gender dysphoria. Some transgender people can manage it, but most end up at a point where they literally "transition or die" eventually. And no, not rambling. Thanks for the input.

Um, its occurred to me. What are the parents legal obligations to medical aid once he turns 18. If he is considered an adult, then they may not be obliged to pay for whatever the medical costs are.

Good point. You mean as in cut him off entirely. Not even be willing to pay for the medication he needs to be healthy. Bugger.

Mina.

[Judas]

Yeah, for better or worse, that's my thinking too - just want to see if he can get the GP to support him as far as being trans goes, but I agree: This will have to come out sooner rather than later. As for family - I'm not too sure. We've never really talked about relatives and such. I just know most of them live in Pretoria. That's about it.

If your friend has been diagnosed with Gender Identity Disorder getting the GP on your side shouldn't be a problem. In fact, if you could get the GP a letter from the psychiatrist confirming the diagnosis and suggesting that your friend receive male hormones he'd be almost certain to offer his support, as the psychiatrist technically has more authority in these matters.

[Prime]

jee, so while the other admins have a banstick, you simply have a broom stick?

yeah, and i know what where to stick that broom, so running for the hills.... is kinda not the right thing to do!

You use it to sweep under the rug?

BOT: Maybe He should also pull up as much research on his condition(s) as possible. Though, if his parents would be so against it anyway, I'm not sure if it would help.

[D3PART3D]

Yeah, for better or worse, that's my thinking too - just want to see if he can get the GP to support him as far as being trans goes, but I agree: This will have to come out sooner rather than later. As for family - I'm not too sure. We've never really talked about relatives and such. I just know most of them live in Pretoria. That's about it.

If your friend has been diagnosed with Gender Identity Disorder getting the GP on your side shouldn't be a problem. In fact, if you could get the GP a letter from the psychiatrist confirming the diagnosis and suggesting that your friend receive male hormones he'd be almost certain to offer his support, as the psychiatrist technically has more authority in these matters.

[RiaX]

As a pharmacist i have never come accross this yet (though im still inexperienced ), this seems like a field for a specialist rather than a GP in my opinion if hormonal therapy is required. HOWEVER, as a person governed by the health professionals act laid down by the HPCSA your friend DOES NOT have to tell his/hers/its parents. BY LAW the pharmacist/doctor/nurse or anyone else that are aware of his condition CANNOT disclose that information to any persons without consent FROM THE PATIENT.

So all your friend has to do is tell his doctor that the situation is sensitive and inform the doctor that this information MUST be kept confidential. Then your friend will be able to take his time to come up with a proper solution.

If you want you can read up more about this its on the health professional council website http://www.hpcsa.co.za/hpcsa/default.aspx?id=152 i think its booklet 11 you can have your friend read this and take as a reminder if the doctor gives problems.

[mina.magpie]

As a pharmacist i have never come accross this yet (though im still inexperienced ), this seems like a field for a specialist rather than a GP in my opinion if hormonal therapy is required. HOWEVER, as a person governed by the health professionals act laid down by the HPCSA your friend DOES NOT have to tell his/hers/its parents. BY LAW the pharmacist/doctor/nurse or anyone else that are aware of his condition CANNOT disclose that information to any persons without consent FROM THE PATIENT.

So all your friend has to do is tell his doctor that the situation is sensitive and inform the doctor that this information MUST be kept confidential. Then your friend will be able to take his time to come up with a proper solution.

If you want you can read up more about this its on the health professional council website http://www.hpcsa.co.za/hpcsa/default.aspx?id=152 i think its booklet 11 you can have your friend read this and take as a reminder if the doctor gives problems.

Hey RiaX. I've not been online in a good while and only saw this now. Thanks so much. This helps an awful lot. Sending the details along right now.

Mina.