Should I feel guilty if something happens?

[Anakha56]

If I broke some sort of protocol just posting in here lemme know but I couldn't help it on this one

Cant speak for others but outside of the PCF Section and in the Chill and Ward areas you are just a normal n00b that needs his head bashed in .

To answer your first question: Yes you should feel guilty if something happens, why you ask? You have the power right now to get her help the ball is firmly in your court like it or not. Best bet? Phone her family and approach them in a sincere manner, not sure but if you dont do anything and she does kill herself I am pretty sure you can be held responsible and might do time?

Of course the flip side is: Get back with her, use her, dump her and then threaten to kill yourself so that you can get back together with her. Reverse the roles see if she enjoys being manipulated...

//yes I can be evil sometimes...

[lancelot]

Get the hell out man and quickly

[Monty]

Get the hell out man and quickly

QFT!!

[Stuart]

first of all, congratulations on posting a personal email like that on a public forum for the whole world to see. i'm sure if the roles were reversed and she posted your deepest darkest thoughts on a public forum you would have no problem with it at all.

that being said, forward her emails to her parents.

[Synthesis]

On a personal note, I wouldn't feel guilty, not after what she did. Cheating is a biggie and doesn't warrant remorse or respect. It was a premeditated decision. I don't understand how anyone expects to trust the other after cheating results in a break up. I have trust issues and would never trust that person again which makes for a pretty cramped lifestyle.

When suicidal threats enter the picture it makes it even easier knowing the right decision was made. For personal reasons I have NO respect for attempted suicide victims or even successful ones. To me it just shows weakness. How many people would give everything they have for a petty problem that she has, yet they have the courage and strength to carry on with life.

My thoughts: She is seeking attention and whether you do anything about it or not is not your problem and you shouldn't feel guilty. Whatever will make YOU sleep better at night, do it, whether it's to drag her to an asylum for help, or email her the most efficient fail-safe ways of doing the deed, do it. Don't listen to us and regret or place blame on what happens. Good luck with the whole thing either way, hope it works out for you.

*edit* Seeing posts like Stu's, you know her intentions better than anyone else so if there's a chance it is serious, just a thought: Her knowing you "told on her" to her family/friends may just push her to a final and speedier decision, so play that card carefully.

[Nuke]

first of all, congratulations on posting a personal email like that on a public forum for the whole world to see.

Better idea
1. Post emails, pics, email addresses on /b/
2. Run like hell
3. ????
4. Profit!

Personly is just makes me angry when people want me me to feel abd to try and manipulate me.

[Prime]

Synthesis, you clearly don't understand and probably never will experience depression. When you can't see any other way out of you predicament and it feels like absolutely no one else gives a darn, maybe then you'll actually know why people take their own lives. I'll be interested to see what happens if one of your children gets depression and or commits suicide. and yes, i'm being hella cold in saying that.

I don't agree with suicide, it leaves more mess than it ever solves but people in a deep level of depression don't seem to see that.

Back on topic: she has knowingly or unknowingly damned you JUFO. if you do nothing, and she does suicide, her family could well sue you and/or you could well end up in jail as suicide is illegal in most countries of the world, including SA. You could be viewed as an accomplice. If you do do something, she may hate you for a very long time amongst the other possibilities. this might be a better path for everyone. At the Same time, do you really want to go anywhere near her again or get involved. Its a tough call, you need to see through the layer of depression poisoning the person, you and the world outside and decide who that person really is and if its really worth helping them.

[Stuart]

it feels like absolutely no one else gives a darn

look, just cos no one wants to fix your holey socks is no reason to take your life!

[Richard_]

ASL? And is she hot?

[Richard_]

As for all the relatively 'normal' people on the forum, a psychosis can't be understood by anybody but a trained psychological practitioner. To the rest of us, conditions like schizophrenia or severe depression may sound unlikely or even controllable, but to the person experiencing them, the symptoms and effects are a very real part of their lives and should never be taken lightly, especially when said person threatens to put their life in danger. Since you have nothing left to lose, your best option is providing all the evidence you have to the closest guardian of this chick, and hand her over to be somebody else's problem. As it stands, if you're the only person who knows about her intentions, you will be the first to be implicated if she takes her life, since you knew about her situation and did nothing to stop it. Get advice from her parents/guardian, and quickly at that.

[D3PART3D]

ASL? And is she hot?

Finally, the important questions! She must be hot though.

Hotness is directly proportional to craziness.

[Prime]

ASL? And is she hot?

Finally, the important questions! She must be hot though.

Hotness is directly proportional to craziness.

Oh dear, the hotness-craziness scale Next we'll need the lemon law

[Tribble]

I still reckon that you need to tell someone else and then leave it up to them.

[lancelot]

Damn it, tell no one, this is natures way of correcting the gene pool. Telling people, like her parents, will only exacerbate matters, they would love to know that their daughter is no longer a virgin, that she sleeps around, what are you guys trying to do?
Leave it, time will sort it out. Psychological crap has nothing to do do with her immense feelings of guilt, she will eventually get over it.

[RuadRauFlessa]

Damn it, tell no one, this is natures way of correcting the gene pool. Telling people, like her parents, will only exacerbate matters, they would love to know that their daughter is no longer a virgin, that she sleeps around, what are you guys trying to do?
Leave it, time will sort it out. Psychological **** has nothing to do do with her immense feelings of guilt, she will eventually get over it.

+1

Just confront her and show her some anger. Show her that you are deeply hurt by what she has done and that you have moved on and that she should do the same. The rest is up to her.

[justinufo]

Well she blames me for feeling like crapO.o.Said when i called her a %&** and a %^&^ (she deserved it though you cant argue) she lost her self-confidence.Sigh.She acts af if shes the victim here!I cant even go out with some friends and she flipped out.When i met her and she ssaid shes f'd up i didnt believe her!I blocked her on fb.Use my gmail now.I gotta change my number now.I think Shes been fine for some time.Her depro was gone for a while.She also says shes not a H...o...That shes was only with one guy.Like that makes it better.

[RuadRauFlessa]

You are right it does not make it any better. Like I said you have to tell her to move on and get a life.

[lancelot]

+10

[jee]

When suicidal threats enter the picture it makes it even easier knowing the right decision was made. For personal reasons I have NO respect for attempted suicide victims or even successful ones. To me it just shows weakness.

Is that so? Do you know how much courage it actually takes for someone to go through with it? You obviously have not been in that place where you cannot think of anything else, cannot think of a way out, being in such a bad place that nothing else matters.

Having said that, too often people who has been left by their lovers use the suicide ploy to make you as unhappy as they are feeling. They think about you the whole time, and hurt - they want YOU to think about them the whole time, and hurt - even if it is for the wrong reason.

Having dealt with suicide-i-want-attention threaters and those who did not just threaten, I believe that your job is to let her parents/family know - and then leave her. If she feels that there is nothing left to live for, if her family cannot get her medication/therapy - then she should be allowed to go ahead and follow through with her choice. It is HER choice, not yours.

If you know in your heart of hearts that you have no blame, then you do not have to feel guilty.

Remember, we all make our own choices (well, most of us, some are being forced into stuff), and we live or die by it - that is what freedom is all about, no matter how hard/bad it is for others to come to terms with those choices.

And if it harm none do what ye will

[RuadRauFlessa]

And if it harm none do what ye will

Oh now you are talking like a Wikkan Any relation

[Jonboy]

Soo, justinfo, anything become of this since Tues?

[Sojourn]

And if it harm none do what ye will

Oh now you are talking like a Wikkan Any relation

Considering you are both mods, have a massive post count and is active daily... I find that you should know G by now.
sheesh

[justinufo]

Soo, justinfo, anything become of this since Tues?

Nothing dude.I just dont care anymore.Blocked off all communication with her.

[Jonboy]

Soo, justinfo, anything become of this since Tues?

Nothing dude.I just dont care anymore.Blocked off all communication with her.

Good on you mate, you don't need that crackpot messing with your mind!